You ruin your life by desensitising yourself, we are all too afraid to say too much, to feel too deeply, to let people know what they mean to us. Caring isn’t synonymous with crazy. Expressing to someone how special they are to you make you vulnerable. There is no denying that. However, that is nothing to be ashamed of. There is something breathtakingly beautiful in the moment of smaller magic that occur when you strip down and are honest with those who are important to you. Let that boy/girl know that he/she inspires you. Tell your loved one that you love them in front of the world. Express, express and express. Open yourself up, don’t harden yourself to the world, and be bold in who, and how you love. There is courage in that.
One who delights in solitude is either a Wild beast or God!!
I refuse to let life harden me, I refuse to close myself off, to knot my ribcage back together, to never allow for my heart to shatter and burst and overflow with feeling. I refuse to doubt, to believe that the world has nothing left to offer me, to let my soul give up before my bones do. I refuse to regret the way I can only ever care from the deepest parts of who I am, I refuse to mourn the pieces of myself I gave to others when I dug into the dirt of them and loved them where it ached. I refuse to desensitise myself. I want life to weather me, I want to experience it as honestly, and as bravely as I possibly can. I want to honour the way everything inside of me reaches for others, for connection, for hope, for the belief in something so much bigger than whatever it is that has wounded or damaged me in the past. I want to embrace the way I trust, because at the end of the day I am here to feel. I am here to feel.
This may be a hard pill to swallow, this might make you a bit uncomfortable, but I need to pen it down – The Self-Love movement needs a dose of self-accountability. I have hesitated to post this a many times because I want to make sure that my words land correctly. I always pray that you love yourself. I hope you look in the mirror and see yourself as whole, capable, beautiful, because you ARE all of those things. Right here, right now- You are Wonderful and Complete!
…but when did self-love completely diminish self-accountability??? Self respect??? I see soooo many of us settle – take the easy route – make excuses under the disguise of ‘self-love’. examples : I’m gonna skip my workout today because I don’t feel like it, I’m gonna buy myself shoe even though I know I should save that money, I’m gonna eat that brownie even though I’m already full, and that infamous “I literally can’t ADULT today”, this is NOT self-love, this is NOT treating yourself. In fact, little by little and small decision by small decision, this is a gradual form of settling into a downgraded version of yourself.
In my opinion self-love isn’t about doing what you WANT, it’s about doing what you NEED, it’s not about the messages, bubble baths, fancy dinners or buying expensive new things [although those are wonderful!! truly! ;)]
…but to me, real self-love is about the DAILY CHOICE to do what is best for you, scheduling any appointment on your own, staying on top of your finances, moving your body, seeking meaningful relationships, connecting with nature, none of these is glamorous….but is all necessary.
You aren’t doing yourself a favour by settling for what is ‘comfortable’. True self-love is pushing yourself, seeking growth, learning, trying, reaching, it is the constant decision to be your best self- to respect yourself, your body, your talents, your thoughts. Self-love is wholeheartedly accepting yourself right now, right here, but also ‘knowing’ that there is a more vibrant version of yourself right around the corner ( it just take hard work, diligence, and accountability to become you).
I’ve learned a lot this year….I learned that things don’t always turn out the way you planned, or the way you think they should. And I’ve learned that there are things that go wrong that don’t always get fixed or get to put back together the way they were before. I’ve learned that you can get through bad times and keep looking for better ones, as long as you have people who love you.
I know you struggle sometimes but in case I don’t tell you enough, you’re beautiful. Thank you for being so strong and transparent, the world sees you even when you feel invisible. I appreciate your heart and your stubbornness. Your willingness to move ahead even after being discarded and forgotten is admirable.I’m so proud to know that you’ve grown to acknowledge your worth.
You can’t control how other people receive your energy. Anything you do or say gets filtered through the lens of whatever they are going through at the moment, which has nothing to do with you. Just keep doing your thing with as much love and integrity as possible. It’s always better to take the time to untangle your snarled thoughts than to try to undo damage you cause to yourself and others when you don’t. Even if-maybe especially if-you’re in a rush.
You aren’t Willy Wonka’s Chocolate Factory, to make everything magically sweet. Your job is to be honest and real and authentic. Life is too short to spend finishing bad books. So, let me ask you this: are there chapters in your life that need closing??? If the answer is YES, set those pages down and walk away. Your story will go on.
Your mind is amazing, it can travel through internal time and space. It can create whole worlds inside you. So, please stop using it to punish yourself for past mistakes or to imagine terrible futures that probably won’t even happen!! You have better dreams to dream and so much Beauty to make. There’s no time to waste.
Here’s to all the lovelies out there, just to remind you all that you matter, you’re important, you’re beautiful, you’re all worth, and you’re doing amazing by just existing.
I hope you fall in love with being alive, I hope you pick flowers and read books and understand that life is so much more than a snapchat from a boy you won’t remember in a couple of years. I hope you feel pursued. I hope you have the best of friends, and I even hope you get in trouble together. I hope you make fun memories and take too many pictures and scream at the top of your lungs on roller coaster. I hope you swim in the depths of the oceans, and feel the dirt underneath your fingernails when you climb mountains. I hope you know the joys of genuine laughter, and I hope you know the difference between wisdom and test scores. I hope you understand that you can be anything you want to be, but you have to work hard to get it. I hope you do more than sit around and complain about the things that could change – because I hope you are the change. I hope you journal and write every thought down. I hope you learn how to skate, and eat your fruits and vegetables. I hope you treat your body well, and respect your reputation, but I also hope you have fun.
Show up, Glow up!
In fact, I hope you have unapologetic fun,
and perhaps
what made you beautiful
was not your appearance
or what you achieved,
but in your love
and in your courage,
and your audacity
to believe
no matter
the darkness
around you
light ran wild
within you
and that was the way
you came alive
and it showed up
everything.
You’re the type of woman, who needs alone time. You feel deep, you think even deeper, your alone time allows you to figure out your mood, where your energy is, how to take each step in life.
I was talking to one of my dearest friend today and I realised something. Life is nothing but moments, that fight you had with your best friend is just a moment. The time you were up all night texting someone is just a moment. That evening you watched the sunset with the boy you thought you’d marry is just a moment. The championship that you lost was just a moment. The time you were up all night finishing a project is just a moment. The road trip you spent with your friends singing to throwbacks is just a moment. Every ups and downs and everything in between is just a moment that passes with time. You may remember these moments or you may not, but what you will remember is the people you spent them with and the way you felt. The way she made you laugh, or the way he made you cry, or the way they made you feel like you were on top of the world when you were nowhere but with your best friends. All of these moments and feelings and people combine to make a bigger moment that we call Life. In all of eternity, our life is just a moment.
Someone’s up has all the plan for us!!
I think it’s brave that you get up in the morning even if your soul is weary and your bones ache for a rest..I think it’s brave that you keep on living even if you don’t know how to anymore..I think it’s brave that you push away the waves rolling in everyday and you decide to fight..I know there are days when you feel like giving up but I think it’s brave that you never do..
When things go wrong as they sometimes will, when the road you’re trudging seems all uphill, when the funds are low and the debts are high, and you want to smile, but you have to sigh, when care is pressing you down a bit— rest is you must, but don’t quit. Life is strange with its twists and turns, as every one of us sometimes learns. Don’t give up through the pace seems slow — You may succeed with another blow. Often the goal is nearer than it seems, when you might have captured the victor’s cup, and you learned too late when night came down, how close you were to the golden crown. Success is failure turned inside out — The silver tint of the clouds of doubt, and you never can tell how close you are, It may be near when you’re at the hardest hit, it’s when things seem worst that you mustn’t quit. A scar means the hurt is over and the wound is closed. It means you conquered the pain, learned a lesson, grew stronger, and moved forward. A scar is the tattoo of a triumph to be proud of. Don’t allow you scars to hold you hostages, don’t allow them to make you live your life in fear, you can’t make the scars in your life disappear, but you can change the way you see them, you can start seeing your scars as a sign of strength and not pain. Be around with those who fill you with positivity, who can make you feel alive, when someone treats you like you’re just one of many options, help them narrow their choice by removing yourself from the equation. Sometimes you have to try not to care, no matter how much you do, it can mean almost nothing to someone who means so much to you. It’s not pride — it’s SELF RESPECT. Don’t expect to see positive changes in your life if you surround yourself with negative people. Know your value and what you have to offer, and never settle for anything less than what you deserve. If your heart hurts a little after letting go of someone or something, that’s okay. It just means that your feelings were genuine, no one likes ends, and no one likes pain, but sometimes, we have to put things that were once good to an end after it turns toxic to our wellbeing. Not every new beginning is meant to last forever, and not every person who walks into your life is meant to stay.
Parallel shade!
Appreciate the moment you’ve been given and the people you’ve given to spend it with, because no matter how beautiful or tragic a moment is, it always ends. So hold on a little tighter, smile a little bigger, cry a little harder, laugh a little louder, forgive a little quicker, and love a whole lot deeper, tell that guy/girl you love him/her if you ever wanted, get drunk and dance crazily, listen to someone when they want you to hear, tell your loved ones that they are beautiful and they make your life amazing, hit a fitness goal, meditate daily, learn an instrument, Work a menial job, start investing, Travel as much as you can, because these are the moments you will remember when you’re old and wishing you could rewind time. Not a single thing lasts forever, so you better damn well enjoy it before it’s gone.
You’re going to realise it one day, that happiness was never about your job or your degree or being in a relationship. Happiness was never about following in the footsteps of all of those who came before you; it was never about being like the others. One day, you’re going to see it, that happiness was always about the discovery, the hope, listening to your heart and following it wherever it chose to go. Happiness is always about being kinder to yourself; it is always embracing the person you are becoming. One day you will also understand that happiness was always about learning how to live with yourself, that your happiness was never in the hands of others. It’s always about YOU! Always about YOU!!
The most attractive thing about you should have less to do with your face and body, and more to do with your heart and how you treat other people. Let’s face it, we see an appearance first and have our first impression based on an appearance. Our appearance is where we can hide behind, but an appearance doesn’t say anything about a character. Nowadays it seems that we judge each other on our appearance, who we are and what we stand for doesn’t seem to matter. No effort is made to get to know the person behind an appearance. It is our mental attitude which makes the world what it is for us. Our thoughts make things beautiful, our thoughts make things ugly. Not our eyes. the whole world is in our minds. Learn to see things in proper light. Learn to see souls instead of bodies, by using your mind instead of your eyes.
But darling, only the moon is loved with its every face….Not people..!!
It isn’t easy to be positive all the time. Some days you will feel like you just can’t do it anymore. You want to give up on everything. You feel like you have nothing to live for. You feel like your efforts are going to waste. You feel negative emotions. You are around people that makes you feel vulnerable, and you just think, “how am I going to ever handle all this?” But wait…if you take a moment to think about the bigger picture, you’ll understand that you’ve fought for will never go to vain. Well let me lay it down a simpler way, “You are holding a cup of coffee when someone comes along and bumps into you, making you spill your coffee everywhere. Why did you spill the coffee? you spilled the coffee because there was coffee in your cup. Had there been anything in the cup, you would have spilled it. the point is whatever is inside the cup, is what will spill out. Therefore, when life comes along and shakes you(which will happen), whatever is inside you will come out. It’s easy to fake it, until you get rattled. So, we have to ask ourselves, “what’s in my cup?” When life gets tough, what spills out? Joy, gratefulness, peace? Or does anger, bitterness, harsh words and reactions come out? You choose! Today let’s work towards filling our cups with gratitude, forgiveness, joy, words of affirmation, kindness, gentleness and love for others.
One who delights in solitude is either a wild beast or a God!!
Just be the freaking person who cares more. Be the person who tries harder, loves stronger, gives more of a shit than all of the half-alive people who surround them. Be the person who answers their messages, shows up to their commitments and doesn’t leave others hanging or guessing at their eternally vague intentions. Be the person you wish you were dating. If you’re sick of the game then stop playing it, if you’re tired of the bullshit, then cut it. Because the last thing this world needs is one more indifferent person. If you’re the only one left with passion, then use it. Use the hell out of it. At the end of your life, go out with a bruised-up, worn out heart that gave too much and loved too strongly and felt too fiercely. Go out with the certainty that you gave it everything you had and didn’t hold anything back. Go out empty-handed when it comes to should-haves and might-have-beens. Because it’s an infinitely more fulfilling way to live than the alternative. It will always be more honourable to be out in the field getting trampled on than to be on the sidelines feeling superior for never having tired. The universe works magic!! You pay a price for something, you get it back and ten times more. So hold onto your goodness, try to be as positive as you can. Smile at your haters, and think about something that makes you smile or feel better to keep yourself distracted from the negativity. Try your best to stay away from the negativity. you might not be able to do it all in one go, but taking it slow, step by step, is still good enough as long as you’re moving forward, but know this: you are destined to have a happy ending after everything you’ve been through.
You have probably searched hundreds of pages from the best expressions of your feelings, for a bit of recognition, a little understanding and in those words, poems, and lyrics you hope for a bit of filling in the emptiness that you feel, a consolation for the pain that comes deep within you.
Uncertainties, a feeling of incomprehension and doubt. You crave confirmation, you want to be seen, be heard, and maybe even be understood. There was a time when I felt insecure. The uncertainties were caused by a lonely feeling, a piece of misunderstanding. For a while I have done my best to meet other people’s expectations, to get confirmation, recognition. I thought it was important how other people saw me, what they thought of me. I was someone’s comfort, someone’s help and someone’s distractions too. In my uncertainties, I wondered, what can I do, to be seen, to be understood for once? And I remained silent. I felt used,I felt inferior and unimportant. My insecurities faded when I realised that I have always remained myself. The uncertainties are a thing of the past. Find your respect, pride and understanding. Never doubt yourself, because of someone’s shortcomings.
Because maybe, maybe we are not as lonely as we feel. Maybe someone shares this pain, the loneliness and the incomprehension that you experience, And that answer? You have already been given that answer. And you are right, not everyone shares this same experience and pain. Only the one with the greatest understanding towards another, the one who does not immediately draw a conclusion, the one who first thinks before they act, the one who loves another, someone other than themselves.
Someone who doesn’t just say it, someone who shows it and makes you feel it. Someone like you, and that is what you are looking for. The bit of confidence that you gradually lost, time after time and again you have been disappointed, used and hurt. Stay true to yourself, show how much better the world can be, be like you!!
It’s okay to miss someone, miss someone who isn’t right for you, maybe it was the words that touched you where you thought nobody understood you. maybe it was the touch that you cherished that way, the arm around you, the emptiness that was filled up, someone could talk to you, someone who listened.Maybe that person didn’t understand you, maybe the void isn’t filled in the right way, maybe the beautiful moments weren’t enough to make the dark sides forget. It’s okay, Cry even if you don’t know exactly what you’re crying for. Sometimes we’re just too tired of many things. One being strong for too long, of wandering too far, of carrying things all by ourselves and not being able to come back home, But also know, sometimes it’s just alright to be too tired because sometimes it means you did and kept doing the right things. It’s just it did not end as early as you expected it to, or too much more than you thought you could handle. But sooner or later you’ll see things get better. And all that will remain with you is the happiness you deserve.
And it’s okay to acknowledge that it might have been nothing more than a consolation, a dream, a memory, a relationship that did not meet your expectations, a relationship in which you did not match, with a painful outcome. It’s okay when your expectations, your dream and your hope lead to a disappointment, been painful, difficult and sad, it just mean that you have tried it, that you have learned from it, you get up again, you take your experience with you, you look at yourself, and you focus, you focus on yourself, your next encounter, a new journey and a promising future that lies ahead.
You have come that far, believe in yourself, and show them who you are, and how it should be, seek no validation, make the world a better place. You are everything you need!!!!!! This world is a beautiful place because of YOU!!
Well it’s been a while since I wrote something, I know we’re getting older, growing, changing. I guess, if i’m being honest, that’s what scares me. I don’t want to change. So I think maybe that’s why I come in here, to try and maybe stop that change. To turn back to clock, to make things go back to how they were. But I know it’s naive. It’s just not how life works. It’s moving, always moving, whether you like it or not, and yeah sometimes it’s painful, sometimes it’s sad, and sometimes it’s surprising,Happy.
We all seem to function in the exact same way: we hurt people, and we are hurt by people. we feel left out, envious, not good enough, sick, and tired. We have unrealised dreams and deep regrets. We are certain that we were meant for more and that we don’t even deserve what we have. we feel ecstatic and then numb. We wish our parents had done better by us. We wish we could do better by our children, we betray and we are betrayed. We lie and we are lied to. We say goodbye to animals, to places, to people we can’t live without. We are afraid of dying, also of living, we have fallen in love and out of love , and people have fallen in love and out of love with us. These days, it’s like we’re expected to accept people’s ignorance and rudeness, and if we do express ourselves or call them out on it, we’re the ones who are seen as crazy. we wonder if what happened to us that night will mean we can never be touched again without fear. we live with rage bubbling. We are at war with our bodies, our minds, our souls. We are at war with one another. We wish we’d say all those things while they are still here.
They’re still here, and we are still not saying those things. We know we won’t. We don’t understand ourselves. We don’t understand why we hurt those we love. We want to be forgiven, but we can’t forgive. We don’t understand god but we believe. We are lonely. We want to be left all alone. We want to belong. We want to be loved.
Amidst the Chaos!!
Sometimes you and someone else were only meant to share a moment of time with each other. Sometimes friendships and relationships are not built to last forever, they are built to teach you a lesson. Maybe you both needed to learn something from each other that no one else in the world could teach you at that time. Maybe you both were perfect for getting each other through a terrible storm together. In life you’ll fall out with people that you never thought you would. Get betrayed by people you trusted with all your heart and get used by people you would do anything for, but life also has a beautiful side to it. You will get loved by someone you never thought you would have, form new friendships with people that will establish more meaningful and stronger relationships, and overcome things you never thought you would get over, we all have chapters that end with people at some point in life, but take pride in knowing that the very best part of your book is still being written.
Most people get tripped by the simplicity of the Compound Effect. For instance, they quit after the eighth day of running because they’re still overweight. or, they stop. practicing the guitar after six months because they haven’t mastered anything. What they don’t realise is that these small, seemingly insignificant steps completed consistently over time will create a RADICAL DIFFERENCE!!
Find your peace!!
Some people get really uncomfortable when you grow out of the box they tried to put you in. You’re no longer safe to them…because your commitment to transformation reminds them of what they are not stepping into.
Just Eat Better, Run more, Squat more, sleep earlier, wake up earlier, eat good breakfast, drink lots of water, eat fruits, read books, go on an adventure, talk to self, listen more, feel deeper, love better, open your eyes, experience life. Never rush an emotion, everything in life has a rhythm, it is the pauses and silences that speak the truth.
There are the things that are out in the open, and there are the things that are hidden… and life, the real world has more to do with what is hidden, maybe……!!
Here I sit and write down everything that crosses my mind, I don’t know if we are together in this or am I just alone but I believe this is going to be fruitful one day!!!! They said it’s gonna end… sorry did they say end??? and boom nothing turned to be normal, rather it turned out to be even more worse, but the irony was how am I gonna fix this? is it possible from me or is there someone to fix it? if it’s not me then who is that human that’s gonna make things fall in its place. After all, we are humans and we tend to make mistakes in choosing that human who is gonna fix everything around us.
In the end we are still broken pieces, who wake up everyday with the hope of ray entering our lives one day. Oh yeah, all in all we all are dreamers. In the process of searching the lost pieces of our life and in search of that human who could fix everything around us we tend to miss out on lotta things just right around us. We always want someone who could fix us , complete us. Wait that doesn’t mean you are incomplete, but that missing part of the journey which is still empty and the void that was created echoing more than what you thought while you walked alone and strong by the lane.
I don’t know where to start from but the fear of losing people constantly haunted me inside and I never thought I was enough to fill up my world on my own. It takes a rough journey to find your own happiness just within you. You lose your mind , you struggle, you get mad at people, you cry, you whip, you howl, you contradict, become numb, and all at once silent. You no longer belong to this material world, you just realise it’s got nothing to do with your mental peace. You backoff from the noise and stay at the vast silence that you have let yourself surround. How many of us are really talking about it?? Why are we so insecure about talking it aloud? Why do we step back? what do we fear of? is it something wrong in detaching from the things that harm your mental health? is it?
Why do we feel we aren’t enough by ourself and want another companion to fill it for us? If I could not keep myself happy then how could the other do? is it not really offensive to ask for your share of happiness from the other human out there? you’re allowed to fall but not fail, fall as many times as you want, falling is the next chance to get up and to bring yourself back, but don’t ever consider falling to fail. You never fail until you want to fail. No, your last breakup wasn’t your failure, stop being harsh on yourself and stop judging yourself too much, be carefree. The Immediate pain of heartbreaks that are gonna heal in no time is good rather than being in a toxic one. You emerge as a whole new person after all the mess you were handling. You feel free, explore yourself, express yourself, contemplate on your deepest desires, talk your heart out, have real conversations, gulp a glass of wine, laugh aloud. It’s all the process how do you want to head out to this world carrying yourself and leaving a mark of your existence. Every cloud has a silver lining, it takes the right amount of light to fall on it to be visible. Your day is gonna come soon and you too shall shine bright, indeed brighter than you had ever imagined!! That moment is worth it.
You know what, You are enough just go grab a cup of coffee and just start all over again or maybe resume from the paused phase. It’s all going to be worth it in the end. Do everything that comes in your mind, learn that skill and get that job you always wanted to, play that guitar which has been untouched since long in the corner of your room, go on a coffee date with your own self or maybe with the person you always wanted to go with, ask them out 😉 read that book which is in your book shelf since ages and you never got time for, clean up the mess, go for a jog or maybe learn yoga, drink lots of water, wash you hair, dress up and go get the world. Grab that opportunity and make the most of it. You really don’t have to worry if you want to date your ex’s brother 😉 It’s absolutely normal. Stay focused, things changes in a glimpse of an eye. Everything that looks dark and difficult now, will be bright and beautiful soon. The spring in you will bloom soon and you gonna stand out all mature, strong and tall. The days have gone from pitting black against white, YOU and I inspire each other. Let’s all bloom together, let’s fight for it, let’s hang on to our happiness and mental peace.
Star Dust On Earth 